• HAPPY NEW YEAR 2022
  • Random Acts of Kindness

    Are you looking for ideas or motivation tips to make a difference in your life or for someone else’s life? Are you like most everyone and just have little time? Can you perform random acts of kindness every day?

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    Honestly, it doesn’t take much time to brighten someone’s life. A few minutes a day can make a difference to a person or a family. Just some kindness and the evidence that someone cares about them can turn their world around.

    These five motivation tips take little time, so begin to make a difference today! You’ll feel better — and so will the recipient of your kindness.

    1. Send at least one e-mail a day telling someone: how much they are appreciated thanking them for something they did for you telling them something you like about them.

    2. Send a note of appreciation to your local police department or Fire Station to encourage the people who make a difference in everyone’s lives. This doesn’t happen nearly enough for these people who put their lives on the line for all of us every day.

    3. Put a Thank You note and a cookie in the box for your Paper Delivery person. Can you imagine the last time they were shown a kindness for doing their job?

    4. Have everyone in your family (even if it’s just you) drop all their loose change in a large glass jar you keep on the counter. Every six months, decide where to send it. Make a family ritual out of the event and make a difference in someone’s life almost effortlessly.

    5. Buy a few extra items at your grocery store and drop them by your local homeless shelter or food bank. You’ll make huge a difference, simply by adding a handful of extra items and a few minutes to your shopping.

    I hope these five kindness motivation tips help you realize together we CAN change the world – one kindness at a time!

  • The Secret of Happiness

    What does happiness mean to you? There’s a lot of searching going on these days for the elusive emotion of “being happy” — where do you find it, how do you create it, even what it actually is.

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    But I’d like to share a little secret with you, — happiness is not just for a lucky few who were born with it.

    You see, happiness is not something you can reach out and touch or put in the refrigerator and take a sip when you need it. Happiness is not found on a beach in Hawaii (really!) or in a perfect body. It’s not even in that perfect relationship that Tom Cruise tries to sell us in the movies.

    Yet from the images bombarding you every day, it’s easy to make the mistake that happiness will arrive on your doorstep when you have the latest car, the best clothes, a fancy home, isn’t it? It’s easy to get caught in the trap of thinking that if you could just find the right person, they’d arrive with a box of happiness attached to his/her hip. But all this does is convince you that happiness is something to be found outside of yourself.

    And that’s where you get off track. Because the secret is that happiness is simply a by-product of creating and living a life that works, a life that you enjoy — whatever that is. Happiness comes from doing what you what, where you want to do it, who whom you want to do it with.

    And yes, I can hear all of you — “But I can’t get the job I want because I’d have to go to school for 8 years, and I have to live here because I can’t afford to move, and what do you mean “who I want to do it with” because I want to hang out with Bill Gates or Oprah Winfrey or Bill and Hillary Clinton”.

    And thank you all for making my point for me.

    You see, happiness starts by believing you have control over your life; and grows by making choices that will give you a sense of wellbeing, satisfaction. Happiness comes from deciding that you will go to school for 8 years, if that’s what it takes. That you will organize your life until you can afford to move. And that YOU decide who to hug, how much to smile, what music you listen to, and who you hang out with, even if it’s not Bill and Hillary.

    Happiness is about making the best choices you can about who you spend your time with, how you making your living, how much you learn, what you put into your body. Because when you feel good about the space you’re in, when you’re with people you admire and respect and they admire and respect you, when you’re working on a project that’s meaningful to you — happiness will shine right through.

    And that’s no secret.

    Decide today to stop chasing happiness, and instead choose three things that you love to do that contribute to your feeling of well-being and satisfaction. Schedule time for them, every day if possible, every week at least. It doesn’t have to be for a long time, just 10 minutes a day will help you create the happiness that you’re looking for. Guaranteed.

    And that’s no secret either.

  • Guilt, Resentment, and Our Struggles

    Why Do I Feel Guilty?

    Before we can understand the why behind the guilt, let’s first define it. Guilt means that we believe that something we are doing is causing pain for someone else. It’s activated by our behavior, thoughts, or feelings that we judge to be wrong.

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    Normal parents are protective of their children. But what if your parents were overprotective? What if every time you played sports, rode your bike, or roughhoused with friends, your parent—at best—became disturbed and—at worst—frantic? “Watch out, you’ll get hurt!” “You’ll break a leg!” and so on. Would you have interpreted that as interest in your wellbeing, or rather, believed that you were hurting your parents by your sense of adventure and fun? Children who think that their actions are causing pain for their parents will feel guilt.

    Let me be clear. I’m not talking about a parent’s normal range of caution and concern. I am talking about extreme caution and worry over minor risks. But if you grew up always experiencing irrational guilt about worrying an overprotective parent, you’ll also experience guilt in response to risks as an adult. You’ll feel frustrated by your excessive sense of caution, but most likely you won’t be aware of its cause, and so you’ll cannot change.

    Does Any of This Sound Familiar?

    1. You feel responsible for your parents’ or siblings’ misery, and guilty about pursuing your own goals. How you tried placating them, or atoning, in order to relieve your sense of guilt will explain some of your self-defeating life patterns.
    2. You quietly developed self-hatred and resentment about having to inhibit a normal behavior or goal when your parent continuously behaved badly toward you. How did you respond to the resentment you felt?
    3. You rebelled as a way of protesting. You hoped that they’d get the message you were sending by your behavior and change for the better (that is, you became stubborn to protest against a parent who was too controlling, hoping he or she would get the message and be less controlling). Or, you rebelled to prove to yourself that you’re your own person and you can’t be manipulated. This type of defiant rebelliousness is responsible for many painful, self-defeating behaviors.
    4. Even though you promised yourself that when you grew up, you’d never behave the way your parents did with you, you notice that you’re mimicking their worst qualities.

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    I want you to know why it’s so hard to free ourselves from the behaviors we hate no matter how hard we try, no matter how much willpower we exert, no matter how much advice we receive from others. To understand why it is so hard, we’ll delve into why our childhood patterns continue on into our adult lives even though they are clearly negative patterns and we no longer are living with our parents.

    The negative effects of our family experiences remain hidden from our conscious mind, even though this information is critical to changing what we most dislike about ourselves. We’ll pin down this elusive awareness in this book and you’ll change your negative behaviors. Finally and amazingly, many people you’ll meet will tell you they didn’t experience major problems in their families and they aren’t aware of any guilt feelings. And they’ll tell you this despite obvious, and serious, personal problems. Why? Let’s see.

    Exercise: Now Look at Yourself

    Imagine that you could be reborn into your family today. Now imagine that you were born into your family with all the knowledge that you possess right now. Consider writing about:

    • What would be different for you in your relationship with your mother?

    • What would be different for you in your relationship with your father?

    • What would be different for you in your relationship with your siblings?

    Moving Ahead

    Beginning the process of change means beginning a hunt for the causes of your problems that are lurking below the surface of any problem.

  • Fire Up Your Motivation

    You should be able to find several indispensable facts about motivation in the following paragraphs. If there’s at least one fact you didn’t know before, imagine the difference it might make.

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    It’s so difficult to go on when everything seems to fail, isn’t it? Are there times in your life when you really want to call it “quits” because you just can’t see any good results from all the hard work you’ve done?

    Hold your horses!

    Never ever think of giving up. Winners never quit and quitters never win. Take all negative words out of your mental dictionary and focus on the solutions with utmost conviction and patience. The battle is never lost until you’ve abandoned your vision.

    But what if you’re really exhausted physically, mentally, and most of all, emotionally? Here are some sources of motivation to prompt you to reach the peak of accomplishment.

    1) The Overwhelming Feeling of Attaining your Desired End

    How would you feel after accomplishing your mission? Of course, you will feel ecstatic. You might shed tears of joy. Let this tremendous feeling sink in and encourage you to persist despite all odds.

    When I was studying for the Board Exams, I used this technique to motivate me. I would envision the sweetness of folks calling me a CPA. It would command respect. People will look up to me as a higher level of authority. And I would have better chances of finding a good job. I absorbed all these great perceptions into my inner being in order to achieve my ultimate goal.

    2) The Reward System

    How would you feel if you’ve entered a contest, but there are no prizes for the winners? It’s not very encouraging, isn’t it?

    The same principles apply to your vision. Reward yourself after accomplishing a goal. Set a particular incentive for every objective.

    Let’s say if you’ve achieved a particular task, you’ll treat yourself to your favorite restaurant. When you’ve finished a bigger task, you’ll go on a vacation.

    Got the idea?

    Just set something gratifying to indulge in after completing a certain undertaking.

    The best time to learn about motivation is before you’re in the thick of things. Wise readers will keep reading to earn some valuable motivation experience while it’s still free.

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    3) The Powerful Force of Humanity

    If you want to succeed, surround yourself with the right kind of people who will support and encourage you all the way.

    Be with people who have the same beliefs and aspirations as yours. Positive aura is generated by this fusion of collective energy from people of “like minds.”

    On the contrary, being with people who oppose your ways of thinking may trigger a negative, yet very powerful, kind of motivation.

    Has anyone ever said to you that “You’ll never get anywhere” or “You’re wasting your time with what you’re doing?”

    Didn’t it make you furious and determined enough to prove to them how wrong they were? This is what I’m talking about.

    When aggravated, you will do anything to make those who are against you swallow their words. But of course, your primary focus should be on the accomplishment of your goal and not on revenge. Never let your emotions toward others alter your main aim.

    4) Take Care Of Your Health

    Exercise regularly. Fill your brains with enough oxygen to allow you to do your daily tasks with more vigor and energy.

    Take regular breaks if time allows. Having the willpower to continue despite all hardships is extremely important, but you should still know your limits.

    If you don’t take enough rest, you cannot think clearly and you will not be able to do your tasks properly. In the process, you will just get more frustrated.

    Take sufficient sleep and recharge yourself after a hard day’s work. Never, ever ignore your health. I’ve learned my lesson when I sacrificed my health for the sake of success. I’ve worked very long hours every day and just got minimal sleep. As a result, I became ill.

    It’s not worth it. Success won’t matter if you don’t have good health to enjoy it.

    Fire up your motivation and live life to the fullest!

    That’s how things stand right now. Keep in mind that any subject can change over time, so be sure you keep up with the latest news.

  • Tomorrow’s Happiness Begins Today

    If you want to be happy tomorrow, you need to work at it today. Some people spend their lives waiting for happiness to arrive on its own and it never comes. Others work hard at creating wealth but still aren’t happy, discovering that money only brings a whole different set of problems. Happiness is a state of mind and not the size of your bank account. Happiness is emotional and not physical. Each individual needs to work at creating their own happiness.

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    I like how Richard Bach, the author of Jonathan Livingston Seagull, put it when he said, “If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.”

    To find happiness, you first have to understand where happiness comes from. Memories are to the mind what a mirror is to the eyes – a reflection. The mirror reflects the physical while our memories reflect the emotional. When you look in the mirror, it reflects what you look like; when you look in your mind, it reflects who you are. One big difference between the two is that you can change what you see in the mirror, but you can’t change the memories reflected in your mind.

    We spend a lot of time trying to improve what we see in the mirror, but little or no effort trying to improve our thoughts. Every action creates a memory. Do you really think that the person who is bitter and angry today was happy and cheerful yesterday? If a person says or does something which angers or upsets us, we can either add to the painful memory with our own negative actions or we can replace them with positive actions and create positive memories.

    If you want to be happy tomorrow, you must choose carefully what you do today, because today’s actions will be reflected in tomorrow’s memories and you can not make them go away. Everything you do today will be in tomorrow’s reflection. The next time a person angers you, instead of lashing out, try imagining that you are holding up a mirror that bounces the reflection back at him, knowing that his actions or words reflect him and not you.

    We all want to like what we see in the mirror. To be truly happy, we also have to like what we see reflected in our minds. What the mirror reflects is not nearly as powerful as what the mind reflects, for it reflects our words and actions.

    What will your reflections be filled with? Will your reflections/memories be filled with goodness and joy, or with bitterness and anger? What have you done today that will bring you happiness tomorrow?

  • Power Within Self Confidence Through Hypnosis

    Ever wonder why some people do not find it hard to feel confident? If you must know, confidence is basically a state of mind. Before you feel confident, you think about being confident. Surprisingly, you can easily learn about being confident. For starters, stop trying to become someone you are not. To be confident, you must be comfortable with who you are and accept your limitations. By doing this, you can act naturally and you will not have to worry about pretending.

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    Being confident is a lot of hard work. No one is born with it and it takes a serious amount of commitment and dedication to become confident. Being confident can improve your work and personal life. You will be able to make presentations to large groups of people and speak with important clients. On the other hand, it would require a certain level of confidence to introduce yourself to a stranger or ask someone on a date.

    Another important factor in confidence is determining your strengths, skills, and talents. If you know these, you can trust yourself to accomplish your tasks properly. Funnily enough, there are people who have all the skills in the world but cannot use them because anxiety or nervousness overcomes them.

    If you are one of these people who has problems with confidence, the first thing you should do is to learn to manage this anxiety. You can try a few self-help techniques, such as deep breathing, stretching, or meditating. These would lower your heartbeat and help you focus on more important things. Meditation is an effective way to relax your mind and your body, ridding yourself of negative thoughts and feelings.

    If these are not effective, then you might have a more serious problem that would require professional help. Psychotherapy can help build your confidence by determining and managing the reasons for your anxiety and fear. You could suffer from low self-esteem because of things that you have experienced before. It is also possible that your anxiety comes from expecting too much from yourself. Whatever the reasons are, psychotherapy can help.

    Another fast and effective way to treat anxiety is through hypnotherapy. It usually involves being hypnotized, and the hypnotist will alter your behavior by making suggestions to your subconscious. It is believed that the subconscious is more receptive to changes than your conscious mind.

  • Advantages of Being Confident

    Almost all successes and attainments in life come from your ability to feel certain that you can accomplish what you set out to achieve. Confidence is the gateway to success; to the life that you wish to lead and to the dreams that you desire to live.

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    With confidence, you can boldly progress towards your ambitions and aspirations. With confidence, you can rise and handle life’s demands and challenges. You can tackle any hurdle and obstruction, and move on to the next step of your journey to fulfilment and achievement.

    One of the principle requirements of anything you want to do in your life is confidence. Confidence is an indispensable part of your development, betterment, progress and success, both at a personal and professional level. With confidence, you can forge ahead to fulfil your potential and perform at your peak level.

    Having confidence is the crux that allows you to achieve your true potential in whatever situation; in your relationships, your work or career, your finances and your self-image.

    When you experience a lack of confidence, it may stop you from striving for what you want. This feeling of lack of confidence can be the root of many complications and hardships that block you from achieving your desires. It can be like a large thorn that continually bursts into the bubble of desire.

    There may have been times when you have felt a level of confidence when you were engaged in an activity that you were good at; such as driving a car, being a parent, or managing your team. At those times, you would have displayed a high level of certainty, which is confidence.

    However, there may have been other circumstances where you found you felt less confident. On these occasions, you would achieve a fraction of what is truly possible for you. With determination and focus to pursue and gain confidence, you can develop the strength and fortitude to climb out of the depths of any circumstances, and take advantage of the opportunities and successes that lay ahead of you.

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    • Motivate anyone to do anything

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    In the same way that you have learned to lack confidence, you can also learn to have unlimited confidence. And the simplest and quickest way to kick-start the engines of your brain is to know and accept that confidence can be an acquired process; it can be learned and formatted to suit all moments.

    As your confidence increases, you can take a front-row seat in mastering many areas of your life. You will find that you become more and more comfortable and confident in multiple areas, including:
    • Moving ahead in your career
    • Starting your own business
    • Embracing the risks of everyday life
    • Refusing to be held back by fear
    • Creating circumstances rather than waiting for them
    • Smiling more and enjoying life
    • Dramatically improving your health

    Successful and dynamic people have gained mastery of how to feel courageous and confident. When you develop and build on your own confidence skills, you, too, will feel and become a different person. You will feel much more enthusiastic, motivated and determined in every aspect of your life.

    Once you improve on the way you think and feel about yourself, your beliefs and your actions will follow. You will confidently overcome the challenges that life thrusts upon you and you will manage them with newfound belief and faith in your capability to do so.

    As you become more confident, you abandon worry, hesitation and, more importantly, you side-step fear. The focus here is on your whole being, every part of you; your thoughts, the images in your mind, your emotions, and ultimately your behaviour and the actual outcomes in your life.

    Remember, as you focus on change, change happens. It is fun, motivating and very rewarding to feel and see yourself growing and improving and becoming more confident and effective day-by-day and week-by-week.

    There is great power in believing that you can succeed in your quest for greater confidence. With awareness and consistency, this is attainable. Your confidence can stretch beyond any measurable scale and further still, knowing no boundaries.

    Just think what you can do with all the confidence that you can have!

  • Tips to Increase Your Self-Esteem and Confidence

    Whenever one is beset by a situation that he or she is unsure of – facing someone admired, having to perform in front of an audience, or simply talking to others – he or she is facing a goodly amount of stress. Confident people can usually face these situations without blinking; but the rest of us will probably melt away and try to run away from the situation.

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    For most people facing this kind of low self-esteem, these situations present an opportunity for them to make fools out of themselves. This is a very embarrassing prospect.

    If you are one of the millions of people that would like to stop fidgeting in front of others, trying to squirrel out of such situations, and being so unsure of yourself when facing presentations, here are a few tips to set you on your way.

    1. Competence is Confidence – Some organizations, like the Toastmasters, help those afraid to speak in public toughen up by stressing this credo – and it really works. One secret to confidence and self-esteem is to trust what you can do. This comes with a lot of practice and study. Whenever you practice a skill, you increase your own confidence in your capability to perform even in front of other people.

    Before a big presentation, study up. Try to know everything about the topic before you step in front of the audience. If you have practiced way before the presentation, you will be in a better position to knock their socks off.

    Practicing in front of supportive people you trust will help you get feedback on how to improve your performance.

    1. Believe in Yourself – one reason people are not confident in themselves is the fact that someone already convinced them that they will fail even before anything happens. Never underestimate the power of the mind. If you believe you will fail, you indeed will! A better exercise would to be to believe that you can succeed. Set your mind towards succeeding and you probably will!
    2. Take Criticisms, whether Good or Bad – Most people are bad at taking criticisms. Instead of taking the criticisms personally, use every comment and suggestion to make yourself better. However, you will also have to look out for some criticisms that were never meant to benefit you. Ignore them and move on.
    3. Remain Calm at All Costs – Panicking benefited nobody. If you are suddenly in a situation where you are unsure of what to do or what will happen, keep your composure. If you don’t know the answer, say so calmly. If you do not know what to do, it would not be bad to admit it. However, beneath your cool facade, always try to keep a deliberate, quick thinking, demeanor. This itself could take a lot of practice, but it is well worth it.
    4. Don’t be Afraid to Fail – Many people are afraid to fail; they quit trying because they are not confident in their skills. If you are afraid to try, you will get stuck where you are. Failure can only make you better. Remember that every great man took risks and failed a lot before arriving at greatness.
    5. Don’t Base Your Confidence on What People Think Of You – While other’s opinion of you can be important, it should not sway you from thinking that you are important. They do not know you better than you do. If you free yourself from the shackles of peer opinion, you will be free to try new things and learn new skills. It does not matter if they think you cannot accomplish anything – take whatever good that can be gleaned from their advice and move on.
  • What Causes Depression?

    Usually in our adolescence, we are exposed to many sudden and inexplicable mood swings because of our body undergoing various hormonal changes that prepare us for adulthood.

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    Aside from increased social pressures, the onset of menstruation, for example, introduces adolescent girls to premenstrual tension (or premenstrual syndrome) and the menstrual cramps, the former being a mixture of physical and psychological symptoms, including temporary weight gain, fluid retention, depression, fits of temper and the like.

    Of these, depression is perhaps one of the most commonly identified conditions that both males and females attest to, particularly at the onset of puberty.

    Depression is a term we colloquially use to pertain to any particular period of prolonged sadness and lethargy. Colloquial use would even allow us to call depression any ‘low’ point in between periods of ‘high’ or happiness. A popular one-liner, which many of us are familiar with, even goes as far as saying that depression is in fact simply anger without enthusiasm.

    However, the real essence of depression is the fact that you can’t simply ‘snap out of it’, and that it has the capacity to disrupt your daily activities. It is characterized by prolonged sadness, anxiety, unusual mood shifts accompanied by a degree of irrational thought, pessimism, and is responsible for changes in the way we eat, sleep, or interact with other people that in effect incapacitates us from participating in productive activities.

    Depression is deemed a disorder that requires treatment and attention first because it may be a cause for withdrawal from society as it gives a semblance of suffering, pessimism, and low self-esteem. Secondly, depression may cause changes in physical behavior (like eating or sleeping) that may disrupt regular daily activities or may be mortally dangerous for whoever suffers from it. It may also, in effect, harm interactions with other people, particularly those within the atomic community (like family and friends).

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    Lastly, the accompanying decrease in rational thought causes some people to eventually result to thoughts of harming oneself or even suicide.

    Should you find yourself potentially exhibiting that degree of depression, it is best that you seek immediate help from a professional. The reason is because the many forms of depression, each varying in degree of abnormality it lends, are currently treatable. It will also allow you to accurately determine whether you may simply be suffering from a common or minor depression, which is a mild but similarly prolonged form of depression, or a severe or major depression.

    What is severe or major depression then? Severe or major depression, which medical experts also call clinical depression, unipolar depression, or major depressive disorder, is a sort of depression that necessitates medical treatment.

    This is because severe depression is thought to be a result of a chemical imbalance in the brain. This particular brand of depression is recognized as possibly hereditary by many psychiatrists and specialists.

    Doctors detect severe depression by particular behavioral patterns that emerge. The first is that of a constant feeling of sadness or anxiety. This may be accompanied by feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. Another is when you feel lethargic, tired, or without energy despite the fact that you did not engage in any physical activity of any form alongside a feeling of restlessness. You may also feel a decreased capacity to concentrate and make decisions.

    The more ‘telling’ signs that accompany the previous symptoms, which may be attributed to seasonal hormonal imbalances, strenuous physical activities, or physical sickness for non-depressive individuals, have a more or less social implication to them.

    If you are suffering from severe depression, you may have a feeling of being uninterested in usual activities or hobbies and you may eventually withdraw from them. Changes in your appetite may also emerge, leading to drastic weight loss.

    Another change is in sleeping habits, which may imply difficulty in sleeping, waking up too early, or sleeping too much. With these physically notable changes and the previous general symptoms is a prevalent feeling of inadequateness, hopelessness and guilt. Altogether, these may lead to thoughts of suicide or obsession over death and dying.

    The fact that depression can happen to anyone including you, should be enough impetus to better understand depression. Understanding that people around you (and there are many of them) suffer from depression will both allow you to better interact with them, or, should you be suffering from it as well, allow you to benefit from support groups or other people who can better help you deal with the disorder and stop you from succumbing to it.