Manhardeep Singh

Is Your Marriage a Companionship or a Love Affair?

April 25, 2018

Every marriage is just like any relationship. They have their ups and downs, agreements and disagreements and good days and bad days. When you put two people from different backgrounds with different ideas, feelings and expectations together, you simply can’t expect everything to be wonderful all of the time! While some marriages have very serious problems that can only be solved by intense focus and even therapy, most marriages simply become ‘stale’ or uninteresting.

It is important to reflect on exactly what is causing any conflict or uneasiness in a marriage before acting on it. In a great many marriages, the excitement and ‘take my breath away’ feelings are fading or they are even gone. It doesn’t mean that the love is gone. Love sometimes needs a little stimulation in order to revisit and maintain the feelings we all crave and yearn for. That stimulation is called ‘romance.’

Many people mistake a marriage that seems to be ordinary or unexceptional as lacking love. It simply isn’t the case! Most marriages do not lack love, but they do lack romance! Love is easy and peaceful, while romance is what makes a relationship hot and arousing.

Every single person on earth in any type of relationship desires passion and romance in his or her life. Unfortunately, there are a few things about romance most people don’t understand. The most common problem in creating romance in a relationship is that people simply don’t know how to do it! Other times, people are fixed in cultural classifications and their partners are unable to appreciate them for their own special and unique qualities. Ultimately, some people have simply given up on their search for romance.

In a time where everything is convenient and available almost at the touch of a button, the effort of romance seems as if it takes a good deal of effort. It is very possible to take some old-fashioned romantic ideas and make them work in a modern world while maintaining the genuine intention behind each thought and act. Romance today can be filled with unique ideas, creativity and passion. Romance is simply the way you express your love for another person. It is vital to keeping love fresh, exciting and alive. Without romance, love can become tiresome and even worse.

The expression of love through romance keeps it alive, fun and worthwhile. Romance is only true, though, when carried out with no ulterior motives. The only reason romance should be initiated is in an attempt to show love and appreciation. Romance with true intentions is when you want to show your mate that you are thinking about them and they matter enough to make the effort to bring your love to life through action.

Romance is more like an artistic creation as opposed to an exact science. Those who tend to feel competitive in almost everything they do will need to check that attitude at the door when initiating romance. Love and romance should not be considered a contest that should be outdone time and again. It should be considered a cooperative activity. While love and romance take two in order to work, you can be extremely romantic while still keeping your individuality. Love and romance make perfect partners and can make you and your partner ‘perfect’ companions as well!
Setting Goals for Students

April 24, 2018

All students have universal needs such as good study skills, effective time management, academic and social support systems, and recreational outlets. You may be well out of proper direction if one of these is not given value. You can be guided by a good set of goals.

A set of goals will begin by having a clear understanding of your overall vision or long range goals. You must have a definition of why you are in school and what is important to you now and hereafter.

Set goals that are manageable, realistic and attainable for you now as a student and in the future – meaning short term and long term plans. Set concrete and specific goals that you can transform into achievable tasks on a daily basis. Specific short term goals can be “study my chemistry lessons at least 1 hour every night” compared to the usual “study more.” Being specific in making goals will guide you on what you are exactly set out to do.

Goal setting improves students’ self-image. It calls to awareness your strengths that are necessary to overcome and provide solutions to problems, and your weaknesses so you can start to improve them. If students learn how to set their goals properly, it can give them visualization on how to plan actions to achieve goals and how to carry them out.

Other benefits of goal setting:

– Motivates you to set priorities as a student and make a clear direction of your desires

– Makes you responsible in the decision making process

After you have set your goals, here are some ways that can help you while you are achieving them:

– Find a group of friends that you can really trust even with your life. You can develop friendship with someone that cares about you and your goals.

– Develop your study habits. Do not force yourself if you cannot concentrate, instead walk away from your notes for awhile and relax your mind. Then you can go back to studying as soon as you feel better.

– Design yourself a schedule that will help you manage your time and your school activities. Make one and stick to it faithfully.

– Communicate with your teacher right from the start. If you have questions, ask. This will help you better understand your lessons while maintaining a good relationship with your teacher.

– Focus especially during exams, afterwards you can relax after receiving good grades.

Follow through

Your goals are surely challenging. You will expect and encounter problems and setbacks. That is why self-discipline and persistence are important parts of your action plan.

Being a self-disciplined student and person sometimes means doing what you don’t want to do and giving up something you want – so that you can achieve greater goals. Sometimes, you need to pass up on a movie invitation to give time to studying your lessons for an exam the next day. This can be difficult with peer pressure to add, but just remember that you can watch all the movies you want after passing your all your tests.

Strong will and determination are important for failures are numerous. It is a matter of asking yourself if you truly are willing to do what is needed to get what you really want.

Discipline and persistence are vital ingredients you shouldn’t take for granted.

Do all these with a good attitude.
After all, all of the tests and papers will be over soon enough and a bigger challenge awaits, success in the corporate world.
REST AND SLEEP

April 23, 2018

All the parts of the human body work together, although each one has its especial part to do. The stomach must have a time to rest between meals. The other parts of the body require rest, too. This they usually get while we are asleep. We must not be neglectful and fail to give them enough rest, or they will soon get worn out and give us trouble.

Sometimes, when people are not well or are all tired out, they find they cannot sleep well at night. There are a number of little things that can be done to induce sleep. A warm bath before retiring, followed by a gentle massage, especially along the spine, often will, by relaxing the nerves and muscles, produce very good results. A hot foot bath, which draws the blood away from the brain, frequently will be found beneficial. A glass of hot milk or cocoa, taken just before retiring, often will have the same effect. If the sleeplessness is a result of indigestion, a plain diet will relieve. Sleeping upon a hard bed without any pillow sometimes produces the desired effect. Always have plenty of fresh air in the room. Keep the mind free from the cares of the day. If they will intrude, crowd them out by repeating something else some soothing sentence or bit of poetry. One good plan is to close the left nostril by pressing on it with the finger, then take four deep breaths through the right nostril. Then close the right nostril and take four deep breaths through the left one. Repeat this about four times. Then breathe slowly through both nostrils, but count your breaths. You seldom will count very many. Never take any sleeping powders or tablets except upon the advice of a physician, for they usually contain drugs that will injure the heart.

You will find that you will meet a number of men who are nervous, which means they have not control of their nerves, but let them run away with them. Sometimes this is shown in palpitation of the heart, headache, backache, and many other disorders. There may be a tendency to cry at trivial things, or a feeling of having “the blues.” The cause usually can be found in uncongenial surroundings or occupation, loss of friends, or real or fancied troubles. Whatever the cause, it should be removed, if possible, and measures taken to restore the worn out nerves that are crying for rest or food. Tonics help, so does nourishing food, such as eggs and milk; also a change of scene and occupation, if possible. A man who is nervous frequently does not realize what is the cause of his condition, and considers only the symptoms. So when he has a headache, resorts to medicine. In taking these she only is deadening the pain and not removing the cause, so the pain is liable to return.
Organizing Pitfalls

April 22, 2018

Have you ever considered why you may be having trouble getting organized? Below are the top five reasons. Check and see if you are falling into one of these traps.

1. The ‘I’d Rather Do Something Else’ Mindset.
Let’s face it. We’d all rather be doing something fun, correct? One way to overcome this problem is to schedule your organizing projects for first thing in the morning. Do your project for an hour or so, and be done with it. Once it’s out of the way, your day will be free to do things that you really enjoy.

2. The ‘All or Nothing’ Philosophy.
You may be unwilling to begin an organizing project because you only like to start things that you know you can conclude in one session. Waiting until you can do ‘the whole thing’ often ends up in nothing getting done.

3. Broad Goals and Priorities
Just making the statement, ‘I have to get organized,’ is too open. It often results in an overwhelmed, ‘I don’t know where to start’ feeling. Instead of saying you want to get organized, make a list of the exact things you’d like to organize, such as your bedroom closet, or your filing cabinet at work, or your schedule.

4. A Sense of Attachment.
Sometimes it’s really hard to part with things because you may feel a sense of attachment. It is imperative to decide what things are ‘really’ important to you and what things are just taking up space.

5. Fear of Failure.
One of the major reasons for not starting an organizing project is fear of failure. You may feel that since you haven’t been able to get organized for so many years, that it will be impossible for you to get organized now. Or, you may feel that even if you do manage to get it organized, you might not be able to keep it up. Positive thinking is a must!!
Organizing Your Papers

April 21, 2018

It has been projected we make use of twenty percent of our possessions eighty percent of the time. If we apply this to paper are we in actuality only using twenty percent of the paper fit to bust from our filing cabinets? Hard to see, but pretty probably correct. Below are a few tips to put into practice in your mission to better manage the paper found in your office:

Set up a system for receiving, reviewing and storing your daily mail. This may be a simple inbox sitting in close proximity to or on your desk. The main thing is to have an exact place designated to hold incoming items. An outbox will add even greater organization.

When it comes to filing, remember the mantra “You file to retrieve. You do not file to store.” Files exist to assist us, not to discourage us. Make sure you are filing stuff in a way that will permit you to recover them swiftly and only accumulate the papers that are beyond doubt needed.

Take a good look at your current files. Do you know the contents of each and every one of your files? Are others able to retrieve things in your absence? Are they easy to get to with space for future growth? If you answered “no” to any of these questions, odds are you could do with spending some time sorting and eradication.

Do not be tempted by the copy machine. If you are saving a document by electronic means, you most likely do not have to salt away a hard duplicate too.

Organized offices and homes compel productivity upward, increase competence and assist you to juggle the demands of both. As you develop systems to keep you organized, you will be able to transform your life, not just your space.
Motivation and Goal Setting

April 20, 2018

If you knew that you could achieve anything you wanted to, maybe get that job that you always thought was slightly out of your reach or find and build that wonderful new relationship which has remained somehow elusive, that would be amazing wouldn’t it?

Keep the thought positive. Don’t get annoyed with yourself for not using the resources before. Focusing on a negative energy will probably prevent you from moving forwards. Focus on what it is that you actually want, the outcome you desire.

All you need is motivation and goal setting.

Goal setting and performance

Goal setting improves performance when:

– Goals are specific
– Goals are difficult
– Goals are Challenging
– Goals are Attainable
– Goals are participatively set
– Goals are most often for individuals, but may also be team/group based

In order to stay motivated, observe the following:

1. Identify your Values, Beliefs and Desires
What is important to you motivates you. This simply means that if you assign a value to something important, you are more likely to do what action is required to reach the goal.

People’s goals and desires grow from their values and beliefs.

Draft a list of your values, beliefs and desires. Take time to think about the interrelations of the items.

The list should be a source of motivation and must help you achieve goals you have set. The quality and depth of your motivation is directly related to your commitment. You must be sure that you can live up to reach the goal you have set.

Taking this for granted could lead to frustration that could diminish your motivation.

2. Do a Self-Assessment

Do an informal assessment of your existing abilities. Have a reflection on what you know about yourself. Accuracy and honesty is essential at this point. Underestimation or overestimation would result from inaccurate assessment of one’s abilities.

If you already have an assessment of your strengths and weaknesses and you know what you value and desire, it is now possible to establish personal goals.

All goals should incorporate these common attributes:

A. Realistic

Goal setting should be realistic. The goals set should be based on your existing abilities and circumstances.

B. Possible

Remember not to establish goals that would make the realistic, unrealistic.

C. Flexible

Always anticipate obstacles along the way and learn how to move around them.

D. Measurable

Have a time frame so you would know if you have reached your goal.

E. Under Control

Remember to set your goals based on your own values and beliefs. Target goals where it is possible for you to control the outcome.

3. Role of Personal Circumstance

You should be in a position to be able to act on the goals you have set. Failure to consider your personal circumstances would impair your motivation and goal setting.

Changing circumstances always influences goals. If your circumstances change but your goals doesn’t adapt it could undermine your motivation.

People are often unwilling to adapt and adjust to the situation. It is hard for them to adjust their self-expectations. There are times when people can get frustrated and lose their motivation.

Motivation and goal setting can be maintained if you would take into account your personal circumstance.

Redefining goals is very important to remain motivated and stay on the path to success.

4. Breeding Success

Personal circumstance, motivation and goal setting affect the outcome of success.

If you failed to reach any of these steps, your motivation will diminish, you would fail to work up to your abilities, and this would dampen your chances of success.
IMPORTANCE OF GOOD CLOTHING

April 19, 2018

First impressions are apt to be permanent; it is therefore of importance that they should be favourable. The dress of an individual is that circumstance from which you first form your opinion of him. It is even more prominent than manner, It is indeed the only thing which is remarked in a casual encounter, or during the first interview. It, therefore, should be the first care.

What style is to our thoughts, dress is to our persons. It may supply the place of more solid qualities, and without it the most solid are of little avail. Numbers have owed their elevation to their attention to the toilet. Place, fortune, marriage have all been lost by neglecting it.

Your dress should always be consistent with your age and your natural exterior. That which looks outr, on one man, will be agreeable on another. As success in this respect depends almost entirely upon particular circumstances and personal peculiarities, it is impossible to give general directions of much importance. We can only point out the field for study and research; it belongs to each one’s own genius and industry to deduce the results. However ugly you may be, rest assured that there is some style of habiliment which will make you passable.

If, for example, you have a stain upon your cheek which rivals in brilliancy the best Chateau-Margout; or, are afflicted with a nose whose lustre dims the ruby, you may employ such hues of dress, that the eye, instead of being shocked by the strangeness of the defect, will be charmed by the graceful harmony of the colours. Every one cannot indeed be an Adonis, but it is his own fault if he is an Esop.

Almost every defect of face may be concealed by a judicious use and arrangement of hair. Take care, however, that your hair be not of one colour and your whiskers of another; and let your wig be large enough to cover the whole of your red or white hair. It is evident, therefore, that though a man may be ugly, there is no necessity for his being shocking.
Finding Time to Organize

April 18, 2018

Finding time to organize is often a complaint used by people. In today’s society, activity is almost non-stop and it IS difficult to see where you can add yet another task to your schedule. However, there are ways, hidden pockets of time, to accomplish things. Below I cover a few of these often overlooked free periods.

FOCUS ON A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME
Rather than thinking about the enormous job at the forefront, split that mission up into controllable tasks. For instance, if you want to organize the boxes in your attic, you may think about going through one box per day, until it’s all complete.

ASK SOMEONE TO BUG YOU
Tell a close friend, relative or co-worker, what you plan to organize, and by what date. Then, merely request that person to bug you a small number of days before to see if you’ve completed it so far. A little outside inspiration is frequently an enormous help.

BRIBE YOURSELF
Make something you love to do, dependent on the achievement of today’s chore. If you promise yourself that you will not watch your favorite television program tonight, unless you work for 15 minutes on organizing your paper piles, you’re sure to get that little task completed. No cheating permitted.

DO NOT SEPARATE EACH PENDING BILL
Whatever you do, don’t put your utility bill in one folder, your car insurance bill in another folder and your membership dues bill in another. All imminent bills should be together in an envelope, pocket folder or basket so they can be paid without having to search several different places to find them.

FIT IN EXERCISE BY MULTI-TASKING
Do some calisthenics or ride a stationary bike while watching your favorite television program. Do some easy stretches, while you’re on the telephone and you’re on hold. Waiting for the washing machine or dryer to finish, or waiting for a computer file to download? Now is a great time for some sit-ups or leg lifts!
Distinguishing of Your Temperament

April 17, 2018

Psychology is a very interesting science. With the help of it’s achievements we can research the hidden corners of our souls. This can be really exciting and even make you discover something new about your personality and traits of your character. You can make numerous tests to determine what will your reaction be to a certain event, how you act in extreme situations, what is your aim that you don’t notice, how well you get along with others. All the above stated questions and the answers you’ll get make up your temperament, a psychological term used to show types of personality by I.P. Pavlov, famous scientist from Russia.

He made a theory of temperament after doing some research on the topic and his theory is proved by experiments. In his personal experience essay and just notes he gives a detailed description of person’s reaction to the same event. You sit peacefully on a bench in the park and read the newspaper. You bought a new cap today, but the day is hot so you put it nearby on the bench and continue to read. You see an old lady approaching. She takes a free seat near you and says nothing, opens a book and reads. Suddenly, it dawns on you that she’s sitting on your new cap. What is your reaction? If you laugh and make jokes to calm the poor granny down you are a sanguine; if you start yelling and your face turns red of the strain and you don’t care about the granny who is probably going to have a heart attack, you are choleric; if you burst into tears and allow the granny to comfort you, you are melancholic; and if you ignore everything including granny’s sitting on your cap and the start of the rain you are a typical phlegmatic. These for types can be described by anybody who makes observations in an experience essay, if you have enough patience to observe your reactions to different situations long enough.

Temperament is not the only field to research and find out new things about you. You may also try to prove Freud’s theory, who says that intellect is completely subjected the passionate nature of a human being and his/her needs. You may see for yourself if you can find “collective unknown” and “individual unknown” which may also be very exciting. Finally, there are a lot of IQ tests that make you understand better in which direction to work to make your mental abilities better. You can not only experiment with yourself but have a friend who is willing to find out something new about his nature. Psychology is still a developing science so that can be a motivator to try your skills in this field professionally. Who knows, maybe you are a born psychiatrist?
Dealing with failure involving money

April 16, 2018

Many people deal with failure when it comes to money. It is not always easy to go on without having a good and stable income. There are plenty of people that have money troubles and are not sure how to deal with the failures that come along with it. It is important to keep a good and open mind that will help relieve the stress so that you can find happiness and success.

You need to make good connections. You have to use your family and friends to talk to and help you through problems like this one. Talking to them and getting their advice is something that can make you feel better about yourself and what you are going through. Accept the support that they are willing to offer because you know these people care a great deal for you and your well being.

Set some good goals for yourself. Taking the smaller steps and dealing with the tasks one at a time is something that will be a great help. You do not want to take on too much at one time. You want to set goals for yourself that are going to make you feel good about whom you are and what you do. When it comes to money you need to figure out ways that you can make more of it without giving yourself more of a headache.

Make sure that you are keeping things in the right perspective. You should try a think about situations that are going to help you with your problems. You can start by trying to avoid situations that are going to make things worse. You have to keep a stable mind so that you are keeping everything in line and not making it more stressful on your life.

Making good choices is another helpful way to deal with the failures of money. You need to try and decide where you can save here and there. Putting money aside or making better choices that are going to give you more options is something that you can do. Thinking about making more money might be another good idea that will help you be more successful in dealing with your failures at money.

Give yourself time. Make sure that you are taking care of yourself and paying attention to your own needs. If you are having bad feelings you should not ignore them. They will not go away on their own if you leave it for another day. You should work through your problems so that you are not left out in the cold when it comes to discouragement. You want to do anything that you can to be a happier and better person. If you are thinking of ways that you can take on the challenges of money you will see how much better off you will be.

There is always time to deal with certain situations later on when you need to. There is no reason to get worked up and stressed out over money. It is really not going to help. The one thing to keep in mind is that you are not a failure and that you have done everything you can to make things better for you and your needs. Give yourself some breathing room and do not be afraid of taking chances. You have to deal with your money problems as they come and realize one thing that you are not failure and that things will improve with time. Just be patient and use your support system well.